It’s the morning of Feb. 14. You wake up early, full of excitement because today is special. You have to work today, but that can’t stop the building of adrenaline from racing through your entire body. Knowing that you’re going to have a romantic dinner with your partner in a fancy restaurant is more than enough to fill you with extra energy to accomplish everything you have to do today. So you style up your hair, put on makeup, wear that special dress that hugs your well-shaped figure, and put on those stilettos that truly bring out the beauty in your legs.
At work your secretary suddenly brings you a dozen red long-stemmed roses. Jealousy fills the office as all eyes are on you while you read the note that says:
“You’re the most amazing woman on this planet, and I love you with all my heart and soul.”
Your heart beats so strongly that your hands shake as you fumble to text him immediately.
“Thank you so much for the flowers Honey. You are the best! I love you, and I can barely wait to spend the evening with you!” The moment of truth final comes. Your guy meets you at your door of your car as soon as you pull into the parking lot of the restaurant, opens the door, and lands a kiss so passionate on your lips that your body instantly heats up. He also dressed to impress, and he looks so dashingly handsome that you can’t take your admiring eyes of him.
He grabs your hand and leads you into the restaurant. He opens the door for you, allowing you to get in first, but loses no time in recapturing your hand. The host asks you to wait as she checks to see if your table is ready, leaving your man to sneak in yet another passionate kiss.
Dinner is fabulous, but the conversation steals the night. Well, you do most of the talking as he listens attentively and caresses your arm oh so tenderly. You pour out all your thoughts, feelings, fears, failures, and triumphs. Oddly enough, despite sharing so many emotional stories, you can’t remember ever laughing so much.
As you carry on and on, you notice how sexy and beautiful he makes you feel just looking at you. You let him know just how much you love and appreciate him, and how lucky you feel for having him in your life.
Hours at the restaurant flew as if they were only minutes. When the waiter asks if you would like to see the dessert menu, both of you smile at each other shyly – as if the server could read your thoughts – and decline quickly. Dessert was waiting for you at home; alone!
The next morning after Valentine’s Day is over life continues to take its normal course.
Time passes like the wind. Days spin into weeks. Weeks breeze into months.
Although things between you and your husband are still strong, you’ve noticed that all your responsibilities and daily routines have made a slight toll on your relationship. Sometimes you just can’t shake the feeling that something is different between you two. The little details – once such an important part of your relationship – have taken a back seat to the daily grind of life and routine.
When you two finally do have time to spend alone with each other, both of you are so exhausted that all you want to do is eat, watch TV, and go to bed. The once ever-so-passionate kisses are now a single peck on the lips followed by:
“Good night Love. Sleep well.”
No Guarantees
Most relationships, unfortunately, start to fade with time.
Partners stop putting each other as top priority, and the small details seem to diminish daily.
But relationships can stand the test of time. The “secret” to keeping your partnership strong and healthy is to treat each day as if it were your anniversary or Valentine’s Day.
Can you imagine what would happen if you made your relationship top priority? What shape would it be in if you both paid attention to all the small details; daily?
The fact that you share a “good” relationship today is no guarantee that it will be solid in the future; not even if both of you have sworn eternal love for each other. No relationship is guaranteed; not even if you are married with children.
Growing Your Garden
Think of your relationship as if it were a beautiful garden. Due to your time, dedication, and constant care, your garden is full of colorful flowers, well-trimmed bushes, and bountiful fruit trees. All the planting, watering, weeding, etc. have definitely paid off.
But your beautiful garden needs constant care. If you stop paying attention to the details it needs daily, the weeds quickly begin to invade and do damage. It doesn’t take long before your plants dry up, your bushes grow out of control, and your trees stop bearing fruit.
Keeping Your Relationship Healthy
If you want your partnership to flourish over time, treat it as if every day were Valentine’s Day. Here are a few things that you can do daily:
- Fix yourself up; get sexy for your partner.
- Send him loving emails and text messages to let him know that you are thinking about him.
- Tell him just how much you appreciate all that he does for you.
- Be caring and loving with him.
- Be his buddy; his co-pilot – helping him whenever you can.
- Plan a romantic date for only the two of you at least once a week.
Avoid Assumptions
Be sure that you’re doing what he actually wants (not what you think he wants), and also, tell him what you like/want!
Unfortunately, one of the main reasons most women feel frustrated in their relationships is because they mistakenly think:
“If he loved me, he’d know what I like/want.”
But how can he guess what’s on your mind?
It’s your job to tell him. If you don’t, you will most likely become unsatisfied because you are not getting your needs met.
It only takes one partner to help ensure a fulfilling relationship
As you read this blog, are you thinking: “I love the idea of paying more attention to the daily details in my relationship, but what if he doesn’t do the same for me?”
Don’t worry about that for now. Your relationship can become stronger even if only one of you makes an effort to do more for the other one. Just start treating him well and share the ideas in this blog with him.
Tell him that you would really appreciate it if he did more of the things that you love… as if every day was Valentine’s Day.
Remember, the small details that you do — or don’t do — will greatly impact the quality of your relationship. So get busy doing something nice for your partner and remember the importance of expressing yourself!
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I love to hear from you! Do you still do nice things for your partner on a daily basis?
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